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A dad holding is newborn baby

what if i don’t trust my instincts? how to hold a newborn baby – and other reassuring tips.

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If you’re a new or soon-to-be-parent, chances are that somewhere along the line, you’ve been advised to ‘trust your instincts’.

But instincts don’t just happen overnight or necessarily at all for that matter, and this can be disconcerting when it comes to parenthood. But one helpful thing to remember is that ‘trust your instincts’ is essentially shorthand for - believe in yourself and your capabilities as a parent. And this is solid advice. But there’s no reason you should ‘just know’ how to do certain things once you become a parent, even if they seem obvious. So always ask – there’s no such thing as a silly question when it comes to babies.

To help you on your way, here a few simple tips:

How to hold a baby

The most important thing when holding a baby is to support their head - it’s the heaviest part of their body and their neck muscles can’t yet support it. Otherwise, however feels most comfortable to you and your baby is fine. For more details on holding your newborn, check out our swaddling a newborn article.

How to recognise what certain ‘cries’ mean

Alas, babies don’t have the capacity to tell us exactly what they need. If they did, parenting would certainly be easier. But while you may have heard advice or seen opinion pieces stating that babies’ cries can mean different things, this isn’t true and every baby is different. So sometimes, you really won’t know why your baby is crying – and there’s nothing wrong with that. All you can rely on then is trial-and-error: try everything you can to soothe them until something eventually works!

However, if your baby is crying constantly and you cannot soothe them, or the cry does not sound like their normal cry, it can be a sign that your baby is ill. Alternatively, they may be ill if they are crying, plus have other symptoms such as a high temperature. If this is the case, contact a healthcare professional.

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